Wife Battering,causes And Effects
Battering is the act of beating and injuring the wife ,in some cases the husband .This act is as old as humanity itself. Be that as it might, this act has caused major distress in families the world over .The causes of wife battering are many that even a book of many pages could not explain it all .Wife battering reduces the self esteem of women and children . In the cases where a man is the victim, the self esteem of the man involved will be at an all time low. I will examine some of the causes of wife battering.They include
One of the major causes of wife battering is culture ,some cultures especially in Africa and some other continents inadvertently support wife battering . I can narrate my experience here to butress my point .In one of my many junkets all over the world to eke out an honest living.One day i came across a woman battered and bruised ; what a pretty woman she was . However, years of pummeling has turned her into a has been .I was in a police shop in that country to sort out some immigration problems when the woman came in with a baby of less than six months old loosely slung on her back .She was weeping profusely ,with parts of her lips hanging ,driping with blood .Immediately she stagered in , the police started making fun of her telling her that she must have done some evil to deserve this kind of pummelling .My heart bled on the sight of this woman .I kept mum because after all i couldn’t drink panado for another person’s headache.Suprisingly , even a police woman who was supposed to show sympathy was immersed in laughter with her male coleagues. I gave myself a hard pinch to make sure i wasn’t on a dream island. It was then it dawned on me that this could be a cultural orientation, the man is always right.
The next cause of wife battery is family history .Male children who grew up watching there mother being used as a punching bag may likely emulate there father as they grow up . Baring any psychological shift,most children will see it as quite normal .The female children may also see it as the normal thing to be beaten and reporting any form of abuse would be out of the question.
Alchohol and substance abuse
Thirdly, one of the major causes of wife battery is alchohol and substance abuse .Most men that abuse substances and achohol in most cases has no control over their emotions. They can turn violent just like the press of a button. There was this case of a man in one neigbourhood that when ever the man is about to come home ,the wife and children will start scampering for safety because they know that something is about to turn ugly.This usually happen after a drinking spree.
Thirdly ,ignorance plays a major role in wife battering ,some men see there wife as their property whom they have to wipe into line. Simply because they have paid some form of bride price or the other .Some men in developed world desist from this act not because they want it that way .However because of the stringent punishment attached to such acts, most think twice before making such moves.
The last cause of wife battering is ego , some men beat there spouse just to prove that” i am the man”. All they needed was a liitle excuse .They would pounce on their wife to prove some silly point and massage their ego.Sometimes infront of their like minded friends. I will not forget to mention that it is not only women that are been battered . There was this case where a man married a woman twice his size and since then he sleeps with one eye open. Since he doesnot know were the next blow will come from .Most times, he walks around with one form of injury or the other and explains it away as accident .This days we know him in the street as “Mr accident”. Infact,there are millions of such men scattered all over the world suffering in silent just like our own Mr accident.
The effects of wife battering are legion but i will mention just a few. Some of the major effects is low self esteem and violent dispostion from children who grew up in such environment.